“I hate you!”
(cue door slamming hard as “the ex” storms out the house)
Elder’s twisted mind is always drawing strange analogies.
Today, while I’m shopping for Easter dinner fixin’s, he throws this at me:
“Christ rose from the dead. I bet divorced people feel like they must do that too.”
Brilliant Elder, but a tad twisted. The more I thought about it though, the more that seemed right. Their marriage “died” Their identity as a husband or wife died along with it. Their sense of control died. Their sense of purpose and drive died too.
They would have to start all over. Often times, naked and alone. They would have to recover somehow and be reborn as someone new. A single person now, again.
Mutual friends and the support networks they provide are often lost. Kids can favor one or the other parent or are forced by court proxy to
Monies are lost. (oh boy! are monies lost…why is it so easy to get married and so hard to get unmarried? Hang on, let me ask a lawyer! Elder says nevermind, that IS your answer!)
It’s a very turbulent time for folks. Many don’t know where or how to seek help.
Several years ago, while doing research on the health benefits of photography, I had the good fortune to meet a psychologist who discovered something unique.
In her counseling practice working with couples in therapy, families in crisis, and divorcees, she noticed a remarkable correlation between photographs and the mental health and speed of recovery for her clients.
At that time she was kind enough to do a short interview with me on this topic. In the spirit of the season, if you are struggling through any sort of mental or even physical challenge, and wish to “rise from the dead” and feel more alive and in control again, I encourage you to have a listen!
I reissue this interview now for your healing pleasure:
Click here for the mp3 recording of Healing After Divorce
Happy Easter to all from me and the wise old Elder!
“Bene Vivere!”
ElderBob Schwarztrauber
P.S. We’re putting the final touches on a new book which lists all the latest and greatest modern tools for finding, meeting, making and riding off into the sunset with new friends. We’re more connected now through the internet than any previous time in history, yet loneliness is near epidemic. Elder and I are trying to fix that based on our own successful history of meeting and connecting with people from all over the world.
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